Constructive Critisim

I’ve finally learned the art of constructive criticism. ‘Constructive’ is the key word here! I was never constructively criticizing myself… I was always drowning in self-pity & remorse over my mistakes. The goal for today, instead of beating myself up for making a mistake, I want to use it as a tool to build a better me!

Have a great day everybody!

Does Everything Happen For A Reason?

Does Everything Happen For A Reason? Yes, of course it does… but what is the reason? That’s the more important question.

This is a question that I’ve asked a thousand times… that I’ve been asked a thousand times… that I’ve heard asked a thousand times… & there is an answer!

As intelligent beings, I believe that we have gotten really good at over analyzing things & distracting our selves from some really simple, basic, truths (God knows I’m guilty of it). I want to proceed with caution here because analyzation is a vitally important part of life! I’m not suggesting that we stop analyzing! What I am suggesting is that we keep our analysis simple & to the point.

Example: Let’s say my home is destroyed by a volcano… did this happen because God needed to teach me a lesson? Or did it really happen because I built my house at the base of a volcano?

The fact of the matter is that when something bad happens it is because someone did the ‘wrong’ thing. When something good happens it is because someone did the ‘right’ thing.

Have a great day everybody!

Political Spending

I don’t know much about politics & maybe that’s why I am a strong believer that we need to simplify our politics!

I was recently having a discussion with someone and I said “the government needs to cut spending” and the person I was speaking with said “Oh, it sounds like we’ve got a Republican on our hands”. Again, I don’t know a lot about politics so I didn’t realize that suggesting some spending cuts made me a Republican. I thought that not spending more than you have was more of a common sense statement than a political statement. I certainly don’t want to offend anyone… if, in your opinion, it’s ok to be 16 trillion in debt, that’s your business and everyone is entitled to their opinions, but the more I study the politics of the men who built this country, the more I realize just how simple & powerful their beliefs were.

“The policy of the American government is to leave their citizens free, neither restraining nor aiding them in their pursuits.” ~Thomas Jefferson

That just seems so simple! Don’t take what I’ve earned from me… and don’t give to me what I have not earned.

The problem with the excessive spending is this… it very simply is not the governments job to take care of us & the more we ask them to, the more they control us rather than ‘We The People’ control them.

Have a great day everybody!

“IF” There Is a God

About 8 years ago, my life & my problems had piled up on me to the breaking point. I tried everything that I could dream up to fix it & nothing worked. Finally I was told that my problems were being caused by my own defects of character; I was selfish, resentful, dishonest & afraid. Those 4 things were causing me to have trouble with personal relationships, to lose control of my own emotions, to feel miserable, depressed & unhappy… I was full of fear & couldn’t be helpful or useful to anyone. Then I had this conversation with a friend that changed my whole way of living & thinking.

A friend: Relying on God will solve all of your problems.
Me: But I don’t believe in God.
A friend: So
Me: What do you mean “so”!?
A friend: You don’t have to believe in God to rely on Him.
Me: So what do I do?
A friend: Before you speak or act, ask yourself this question “IF there is a God, is this what He would have me do or say right now?”
Example: IF there is a God, would He want me to shoot up heroin?
I bet you came up with the same answer I did, whether you believe in God or not. I still don’t believe in God the same way most people do, but I am absolutely 100% certain that there is something out there guiding me & that guidance is always available… if I ask for it!

Have a great day everybody!

Facing Fear

As a kid, I had a recurring dream…

At the end of a long hallway was a landing that went down 3 steps & something was always peeking its head over the top step & in an incredibly eerie voice, it would whisper my name… Jeff… Jeff. I would pull the blankets over my head & hide from it. This went on for years until one day I pulled the blanket off my head, sat up, looked it straight in the eye & said…

“What… what the hell do you want”

I never had that dream again.
The goal for today, face my fears because facing them is the key to overcoming them!

Have a great day everybody!

Life, Liberty & The Pursuit of Happiness

“Life, Liberty & The Pursuit of Happiness”

My God owes me nothing! He gave me Life… what more could I ask of Him?

My Country owes me nothing! She gave me Liberty… what more could I ask of Her?

My Heart owes me nothing! It gave me Happiness… what more could I ask of it?

The goal for today, ask for less & give more! Have a great day everybody!


The past few years I have been asking myself “Why?” to a number of questions that I previously would have written off as unimportant or unanswerable.

For example… I’m terrible with names.

Now I can just make up a reason like “I have a bad memory” or I can ask “Why?” & find the Truth.

For me the Truth is this… I am bad with names because I’m not listening to you & I’m not listening to you because I’m more concerned with leaving you with a good first impression of me.

What I failed to realize is that taking the time to listen to you & actually caring about what you have to say & who you are, would probably have left a much better first impression than waiting for you to stop speaking so I could tell you what a great guy I am.

The goal for today, listen to & care about the people around me & my reputation will take care of itself.

Have a great day everybody!