Quid Pro Quo

“Love will never look for a quid pro quo” ~Emmet Fox.

Giving Love out ‘FREELY’ to others is the will of God & the purpose for our existence!

Love works kinda like electricity… power flows from the transformer, into the house, out to the light bulb… it NEVER flows from the bulb, back out to the transformer.

Love flows from God, into our hearts, out to others. It never flows in the other direction… God doesn’t need me to give Him my Love… He needs me to give you His Love!

The goal for today, don’t give Love looking to get some in return… give Love because it’s the right thing to do!

Have a great day everybody!

The American Spirit

“The price of liberty is eternal vigilance” ~Thomas Jefferson.

You can’t kill the American Spirit with a bomb or a bullet… it will live on in the hearts & minds of Free men & women forever!

We will band together again in this tragedy… like we ALWAYS do!

Today, I give my thoughts & prayers to those who were directly effected…

My heart & mind to the vigilant pursuit of Peace & Freedom…

My spirit & soul for the Love of God & Country!

Have a great day everybody!

Don’t Take It Personally

I don’t take it personally anymore when people do or say hurtful things to me.

I was once dating a girl who was nearly 10 years younger than me & one day she made the remark: “You’re old & you have no teeth… you better hope that I don’t leave you, because no one else will want you.”

I’m 40 years old & I do have dentures… I’m not a model, but I’m not a bad looking guy & my fancy plastic teeth are nicer than most people’s real teeth. Furthermore… I’ve spent a few years finding out who I really am & putting a wholehearted effort into the practice of being selfless, honest, pure & loving toward all… I know today, that I’m a good person.

I have some self-confidence & self-esteem now, so my initial reaction was not one of anger or defensiveness… I tried the mindful, understanding approach instead.

She made the statement… I stopped for a moment & thought to myself… why would someone say something like that? & the answer came to me…

She said what she said because she thought that if she could just take my self-esteem from me & convince me that I couldn’t do any better, then I wouldn’t leave her & she could feel safe & secure… she didn’t want to lose me… she didn’t want to be alone.

Now, without this understanding… I probably would have reacted like an ass & said something like: “Well your no prize yourself sweetheart!”… I could have taken the bait & thought… she’s right & cowered to her every demand so that we could live happily ever after drowning in insecurity & fear of being alone…

-Or-

I could take the time to understand the Truth of the situation… I could feel flattered, instead of hurt, that she would go to that length to hang on to me… I could KNOW who I am rather than allowing someone else to dictate it to me.

In the split second that all of this thought & realization came to me, so did the thought that there is one & only one… right reaction!

I smiled… put my arms around her & said “I Love You!” & I meant it!

The goal for today, know the Truth & the Truth shall set you Free!!

Have a great day everybody!

Fear Causes Lies

“The chief activator of our defects has been self-centered fear…” ~Anon.

Now that I know this, I don’t take it personally when people lie to me anymore.

Fear is what causes a person to lie. I used to think that people lied to me to maliciously hurt me but now I know the Truth. People don’t lie to hurt others… they lie to help themselves (self-centered).

Example: The 1st couple weeks, maybe even months, of most relationships is really great.

Why is that?

Because I’m afraid that you won’t like me, so I pretend to be a better person than I really am.

After a few weeks or months, once we are firmly together & it’s getting harder to keep up the facade anyway… then I can show you the real me.

It is extremely important to understand that I didn’t deceive you because I wanted to hurt you… I deceived you because I didn’t want to get hurt.

But now, I know that there’s a better way… If I want you to love me for who I am, then maybe I should make sure I’m showing you who I really am… right from the start.

Today I want to know the Truth about myself & then wear my heart on my sleeve so everyone else can know the Truth too!

Have a great day everybody!

The Power Of Choice!

Over the past 8 years or so… I have discovered that I have a choice!

I can choose my own conception of God!

I can choose whether I’m happy or sad!

I can choose what I think about!

I can choose how I feel!

I can choose who I am… where I am & what I stand for!

I am no longer at the mercy of the world & the people in it…

I’M FREE!!

The goal for today, make my own choices… be responsible for my own actions… live my own life!

Have a great day everybody!

The Only Solution!

What causes alcoholism?

A fragile minds inability to cope with difficult circumstances.

What causes drug addiction?

A fragile minds inability to cope with difficult circumstances.

What causes gambling addiction?

A fragile minds inability to cope with difficult circumstances.

What causes an eating disorder?

A fragile minds inability to cope with difficult circumstances.

What causes gun violence?

A fragile minds inability to cope with difficult circumstances.

What causes poor health?

A fragile minds inability to cope with difficult circumstances.

What causes financial problems?

A fragile minds inability to cope with difficult circumstances.

My life sucks… I don’t know how to fix it… so please give me something to distract myself with so I can stop thinking about it for a little while… until it boils over & I do something foolish.

There is a solution!

We can build more hospitals, rehabs & prisons! We can write more rules, regulations & laws!

-Or-

We can stop screwing around & fix it the right way!

We can learn how to cope with life in a manner other than destroying ourselves & others! We can learn how to act like sane, rational, adults & then start teaching our children how to do the same & breed these incredibly unhealthy coping mechanisms out of our society once & for all!

End rant! Thanks for letting me share!

Have a great day everybody!

Emotional Stability

“We are sensitive people… it takes some of us a long time to outgrow this serious handicap” ~Anon.

It took me about 20 years & some real help to outgrow my emotional instabilities & unhealthy sensitivities.

We all have God given sensitivities & that’s perfectly alright… what’s not perfectly alright is to indulge in unhealthy, emotional extremes.

Now that I have learned about emotional stability, I can clearly see that the lack of it, is the only real problem we have in this country & in this world.

We have violent emotional swings… back & forth & we never seem to end up in the middle. There is no balance… there is no happy medium.

Emotional instability is one of the major contributors to poor physical health, (i.e. chemical imbalances – our emotions do control our glands, whether we choose to believe it or not). So our healthcare issues are directly linked to it.

Obviously, people shooting other people is a direct result of emotional instability. Sane, emotionally stable people, don’t shot people for pulling out in front of them while driving down the street.

Our failing economy is a direct result of the fear of running out of money (fear is the king of all emotional instabilities).

Here is how I fix my emotional problems… I ask myself this question, 5000 times a day if necessary… “If there is a God, would He want me to think, feel & act the way that I am right now?” & when I get my answer, I try my best to live up to it. If I stop asking the question then I stop getting results… practice… practice… practice!

Try it out & see what happens… it just might bring a little peace of mind today!

Have a great day everybody!

The Full Serenity Prayer

God, grant me the Serenity
To accept the things I cannot change… Courage to change the things I can, and Wisdom to know the difference. Living one day at a time, enjoying one moment at a time, accepting hardship as the pathway to peace. Taking, as He did, this sinful world as it is, not as I would have it. Trusting that He will make all things right if I surrender to His will. That I may be reasonably happy in this life, and supremely happy with Him forever in the next. Amen.

Attributed to Reinhold Neibuhr

I’m a pretty big fan of the first portion of this prayer, but after that… not so much.

“Accepting hardship as the pathway to peace”?

I’ve accepted God as the pathway to peace.

“Taking, as He did, this sinful world as it is, not as I would have it.”?

First of all, I never want to just accept the fact that the world is sinful… I want to work toward correcting it, starting with my own sins. And furthermore… that almost sounds like he is saying that the world somehow made itself sinful… ‘I’ am the one that made it sinful.

“Trusting that He will make all things right if I surrender to His will”?

It is my understanding that the words “Our Father” were designed to establish the fact that the relationship between God & man should be a Loving one, like parent & child… not a cold, harsh one, like slave & master. I will not surrender & bow down to my master! I will rise up & stand tall beside my Father!

“That I may be reasonably happy in this life, and supremely happy with Him forever in the next”?

I don’t believe, not for one second, that God wants us to be ‘reasonably’ happy… I think He wants His Perfect Kingdom of Peace, to come & His Perfect Will of Love, to be done on earth as it is in Heaven. In my mind, that is pretty clearly stated… Heaven on earth! Not this ‘reasonably’ happy, menial, existence that we must drag ourselves through to get to the other side. In fact, it is my belief that I will not get to the other side until I have learned how to be supremely happy here first.

So I ask you this… did God just open my eyes to the fallacy of this poetic but somewhat skewed prayer? Or have I just grossly over analyzed this & I should simply accept it & surrender?

Have a great day everybody!

God Moves In A Mysterious Way?

God asked me to give freely of myself to others… but I was too busy looking out for number one.

God asked me to love all people, even my enemies… but I was harboring anger & resentment.

God asked me to be honest with myself & others… but I was living my whole life based on a lie.

God asked me to have purity in my motives… but nearly all of my decisions had been based on the fear of being alone & the fear of running out of money.

Does God move in a mysterious way… or is the real mystery me doing exactly the opposite of what I know in my heart God would have me?

The goal for today, solve the mystery! Put an honest effort into doing what I know is right & reap the rewards!

Have a great day everybody!

Why Are We Here?

“You are the presence of God at the point in which you are” ~Emmet Fox.

This gives me a great sense of duty & responsibility!

It is my job to demonstrate the Love of God right here & now!

That is what He put me here to do… demonstrate His Love!

The goal for today, don’t miss out on God’s Love & live up to the duty of sharing it with others!

Have a great day everybody!