We are usually either too hard on ourselves… or too easy on ourselves. Finding balance in this respect specifically, is extremely important! Always beating myself up for making mistakes is counterproductive & renders me useless to the people around me. Being too easy on myself keeps me from ever really fixing my problems & breeds irresponsibility. The goal for today: don’t ignore my mistakes, but don’t beat myself up for them either… spot them, admit them & move toward correcting them! Have a great day everybody!
“I’m Irish, you’re German… but what makes us both Americans is The Constitution” ~from the movie Bridge of Spies. I never get a lot of support on these type of statements, so I thought I might explain. My posts are never political, they are patriotic… there is a difference. In my mind the difference is that The Constitution is the government of God & always good… politics is the government of man & could go either way. The one we choose to follow will dictate the future of this great nation. The goal for today: follow the Right Leader! Have a great day everybody!
I’m terrible at asking for help! I always have been… & I still am at times. This is a problem that I need to resolve. I know the root cause is fear. I’m afraid that people will think “Maybe this guy doesn’t really know what he is talking about after all.” In my sane moments I know that what people would really think of me having a problem is “It’s nice to see that he is human after all.” I don’t ever want to be a hypocrite… & more importantly, I don’t want people to lose faith in the solution just because I fall short in practicing it at times. The goal for today: be human! Have a great day everybody!
Is being right more important than being helpful? I know a lot about alcoholism & drug addiction… & I help a lot of people. But if someone were to prove my methods wrong, I would concede to that immediately, because I am far more concerned with you getting well & staying alive than I am with me being right. Humility is something that I was lacking most of my life… but these days, when push comes to shove, your life is far more important than my ego. The goal for today: be confident & strong… but know that humility is where real wisdom comes from! Have a great day everybody!
A friend once suggested to me, that I do something nice for someone… & don’t get caught. I remember thinking how crazy that sounded, because I always wanted credit for my good deeds. I wrote the other day how unreciprocated love makes me feel bad & therefore… I should stop seeking reciprocation. And here we are talking about how frustrating unappreciated kindness can feel. The solution to this problem is to be kind without seeking appreciation. The goal for today: stop trying to get shit from people & you will stop feeling bad! Have a great day everybody!
“Opportunity is missed by most people because it is dressed in overalls and looks like work” ~Thomas A. Edison. Wow… how true is that. It doesn’t matter if it’s a job opportunity, an opportunity to help someone, or an opportunity to experience peace & happiness… we have to put in the work. Nothing worth having in this life comes without work, but earning what I get out of life is work that feels really good! The goal for today: with the right attitude, work doesn’t feel like work… it feels like an opportunity! Have a great day everybody!
“Love will never look for a quid pro quo” ~Emmet Fox. There is no worse feeling in the world than giving love, expecting to get it in return & being let down. How can we avoid this problem? Should we stop giving love? Should we stop having expectations? Or maybe we should fully understand that giving anything with a motive of getting something in return is always a bad idea… & should never be called love. The goal for today: give love because it’s the right thing to do… not because I want something from you! Have a great day everybody!
When my life came undone & I asked a friend for help, this was our 1st talk:
A friend: You’re selfish.
Me: No I’m not, I’d give you the shirt off my back!
A friend: You’re resentful.
Me: No I’m not, I get along with everybody!
A friend: You’re dishonest.
Me: No I’m not, I always tell the truth!
A friend: You’re afraid.
Me: No I’m not, I’m not afraid of anything!
Within a few days of this talk I realized that he was right about everything & I just couldn’t see it at the time. The goal for today: be willing to see the Truth… be willing to fix my problems… & then I can know Peace! Have a great day everybody!
“Crazy people don’t know they’re crazy” ~Unknown. This is a very interesting statement. A lot of people ask me for help & some of them think they know what they’re problem is. So when someone says to me “I have a mental illness” I know they are lying because if you had an actual mental illness… you wouldn’t know it. What you really have is a disorder that the experts call… dishonesty. Fortunately it is a very treatable condition. The treatment that I usually apply to this ailment is honesty. I can show you the Truth & then you can decide whether or not to live by it… & if you do, your symptoms will begin to fade very quickly. The goal for today: the Truth! Have a great day everybody!
What feels better, blame or personal responsibility? AA’s 4th step lets me start by venting about how all of my problems are someone else’s fault & then it asks me to tell myself the Truth. And the Truth is that nobody can force me to think, feel, or act a certain way, I do this to myself. So blaming you brings a very false & very temporary sense of relief. On the other hand, taking responsibility for my own life & actions brings a more permanent sense of relief & becomes the foundation for a better life. The goal for today: Take control of your life by taking responsibility for it! Have a great day everybody!