Pure Motives = Peace of Mind

“Our thought-life will be placed on a much higher plain when our thinking is cleared of wrong motives” ~Anon. No wonder I had no peace of mind… my motives were screwed up. Do you ever wish you could just turn your brain off? Do you have a hard time sleeping because you can’t stop thinking about EVERYTHING? Does your mind torment you & exhaust you? Mine did for years! My seeming inability to control my thinking pushed me to the very edge of sanity. But finally I found a solution! The goal for today: stop thinking about what I’m not getting from the world; think about helping others instead & enjoy some true peace of mind! Have a great day everybody!

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You First

“Each might pray about it having the other ones happiness uppermost in mind” ~Anon. Do you know someone who is struggling & you so desperately want them to get well that you sometimes get frustrated or angry at them? I want everyone to get well; I want everyone to find happiness & be at peace; but anger & frustration NEVER come from a genuine concern for the welfare of others. Anger can ONLY come from selfishness… which means I am actually frustrated because their struggle is somehow adversely affecting “my” life. The goal for today: know that negatives NEVER come from caring… so check your motives & put their happiness first! Have a great day everybody!

Why?

Someone recently asked me why God allows bad things to happen to good people. After giving an explanation that I could tell didn’t really get it done… this person changed the subject & without realizing it, he answered his own question. He told me a story about how he was driving & someone cut him off & out of anger, he then went & cut someone else off that had nothing to do with the original incident. So he caused bad to happen to the innocent 3rd party… not God. God isn’t necessarily “letting” bad things happen to good people… but because He gave us free will, He just can’t stop us from being assholes to each other. The goal for today: don’t blame God for human assholery! Have a great day everybody!

What Would You Do?

What would you do if you weren’t afraid? This is a great question! I should be asking myself this frequently, knowing that the answer is the Right thing to do. Acting on fear is never the Right thing to do because fear is ALWAYS the root cause of negative outcomes; and conversely, fear NEVER causes positive things to happen. Whenever I’m struggling & honestly don’t know what to do about a situation, it’s because I’m afraid. If I ask myself “what would I do if I wasn’t afraid”… & actually DO IT, then the struggle is over. The goal for today: find out how incredible it feels to not have to live in fear! Have a great day everybody!

Logic & Love

“Therefore let your soul exalt your reason to the height of passion, that it may sing” ~Kahlil Gibran. Sometimes I enjoy reading really deep, poetic stuff like this… but my job is to simplify it. Most of my life it was one or the other… logic or love. But this quote is suggesting that we combine the two & really learn how to do this life thing right. We don’t want to be so logical that we become mechanical or robotic, but we don’t want to be on a constant emotional roller coaster ride either… there has to be some balance. The goal for today: love like crazy… but don’t lose your mind in the process! Have a great day everybody!

Responsible & Free

When I finally came to the conclusion that all of my problems were my own fault, I had 3 choices: 1) Continue to kill off the pain of that reality with drugs, alcohol, gambling, etc… etc. 2) Continue to blame everyone else. 3) Take full responsibility knowing that that is the only way to fix it & regain control of my life. For nearly 20 years I employed the first 2 options & no matter how hard I tried… they didn’t fix it. Finally at 32 years old, I tried door #3… & it worked like magic. The goal for today: don’t fear the one thing that can set you free… personal responsibility! Have a great day everybody!

Tackle The Tough Ones

Suicide… school shootings… addiction… is there a solution? Yes, of course there is… there is no such thing as an unsolvable problem. But the only way to solve any problem is first to thoroughly understand what caused that problem to begin with. These three problems have the identical root cause: they all start with fear (primarily the fear of being alone)… that fear fills us with internal dishonesty (lies like I’m not good enough, no one loves me, I’m never going to be happy)… once we believe those lies, self-centeredness takes over (it’s hard to think about anything other than what “I’m” not getting out of life)… & then we try to live with the constant, back & forth battle between happiness & misery (we stuff the pain down & then something happens that reminds us of it & we refeel the pain over & over again).

Now that we know the cause… we can fix it! The solution to any & all problems is to do the opposite of what caused it. So, in order to stop refeeling my misery I MUST stop thinking about what I’m not getting & start thinking about what I can contribute to life… I MUST start telling myself the truth that I am good enough, the only way to feel love is to give it, and happiness is a choice… and once I believe that truth, the fear will instantly begin to lift & be replaced by a sense of strength & courage that can & will bring about a radical & permanent change for the better in our lives. Last, but certainly not least, I MUST help others do the same once I have my life back in order… or it will come undone again. The goal for today: know that there is a SOLUTION! Have a great day everybody!