“We cannot buy our own peace of mind at the expense of others” ~Anon. Slander, gossip, blame… these things are NEVER done for the Right reason. Every time that any human being participates in this type of destructive behavior, it’s because they are afraid of something. We have a tendency to point out the wrong doing of others in an attempt to take the focus off of our own mistakes. The goal for today: fix my mistakes, rather than trying to hide them under yours; earn respect, rather than trying to get it by disrespecting others; take personal responsibility… & find true peace of mind! Have a great day everybody!
Blame is really just fear. When something goes wrong in my life, I have a tendency to immediately start looking for someone to blame. I want to believe that it is anybody’s fault but my own. Why? Because if it’s my fault that might mean that I’m stupid or weak or useless. But if I can somehow convince myself that it’s your fault, then that makes you stupid, weak or useless & I’m ok with that… you being an idiot doesn’t make me feel bad. The goal for today: if it’s your fault, I will forgive you & help you; if it’s my fault, I will admit it & fix it! Have a great day everybody!
“Where other people were concerned, we had to drop the word “blame” from our speech and thought” ~Anon. I spent most of my life blaming everybody other than myself for all of my problems… & as a result, my life sucked. Now I try to take full responsibility for my thoughts, words & deeds… & here’s why: 1) If it’s your fault, I can’t fix it… I can’t change you 2) Whoever I blame is controlling my life 3) If I assume responsibility, I am back in control… & I can fix it. The goal for today: assume responsibility… & be set Free! Have a great day everybody!
What feels better, blame or personal responsibility? AA’s 4th step lets me start by venting about how all of my problems are someone else’s fault & then it asks me to tell myself the Truth. And the Truth is that nobody can force me to think, feel, or act a certain way, I do this to myself. So blaming you brings a very false & very temporary sense of relief. On the other hand, taking responsibility for my own life & actions brings a more permanent sense of relief & becomes the foundation for a better life. The goal for today: Take control of your life by taking responsibility for it! Have a great day everybody!
There is always a fear based motive behind blame & therefore, it is never legitimate.
I spent most of my life blaming everyone & everything (except myself of course) for all of my troubles.
Now I can see not only the fallacy of my blame, but the actual danger of it.
If I’m blaming my parents, society or genetics for the way I feel… it will NEVER get fixed.
The goal for today: know that the best medicine for solving my problems is… personal responsibility!
Have a great day everybody!
“We had to drop the word ‘blame’ from our speech and thought” ~Anon.
99.9% of my problems were of my own doing & even on the extremely rare occasion that a problem was legitimately not of my doing, blame is still a pointless waste of time… it doesn’t help anyone or solve anything.
The goal for today, stop looking for someone or something to ‘blame’ & instead focus my attention on solutions!
Have a great day everybody!