Look Out For #1

My approach to life used to be “Look out for #1”… but that never brought me any real happiness. The strange thing about selfishness is that it NEVER makes us feel satisfied or fulfilled… even when we get what we “think” we want. You could gain the whole world through looking out for #1, but it will NEVER make you feel the way that looking out for others will. One of the great paradoxes of this life is that unselfishness is the ONLY way to get what we really need. The goal for today: achieve true happiness, peace & freedom by putting the needs of others ahead of your own! Have a great day everybody!

Give What’s Right

“You give but little when you give of your possessions. It is when you give of yourself that you truly give” ~Kahlil Gibran. There is nothing wrong with helping someone out from a physical or material standpoint… but it is infinitely more important that we learn how to give each other patience, tolerance, kindliness & Love. All the material possessions in the world won’t add up to the total sum of what even just a moment of genuine kindness could amount to. The goal for today: remember always, that your neighbor is far more in need of your Love, than they are your money! Have a great day everybody!


What do you believe you need in order to be happy today? Most of my life I could write a list a mile long of what the world & the people in it needed to give to me to make me happy… but now I know the Truth. I thought it was my significant others job to make me not feel alone… but it’s not. I thought it was my bosses job to supply me with financial security… but it’s not. I thought it was my friends & families job to make me feel good about myself… but it’s not. The goal for today: know the Truth… I will never feel alone if I “give” to my girl; financial security comes from “giving” my best effort to my job; self-esteem comes “giving” rather than taking! Have a great day everybody!

Just Give

“If I love you, what business is it of yours” ~Goethe. One of my favorite quotes! Properly understood, this means that I should not waste time worrying about whether or not people love me… I should stay focused on making sure that I am giving love out freely to others. The great paradox of love is that it always makes the giver feel better than the recipient. But when we forget that fact & complain that we aren’t “getting” enough love from others, we shut ourselves off from the wonderful feelings of love, because the one & only way to truly feel love, is to give it. The goal for today: don’t waste time monitoring the rest of the worlds actions… just make sure you’re doing what’s Right! Have a great day everybody!

… But Always Give

I always talk about “giving” & yes, there is a Right way & a wrong way to give. The motive behind my giving dictates whether it is Right or wrong… & it dictates the outcome. If I give freely of myself, expecting nothing in return, with no fear or selfishness… I am guaranteed to get the Right outcome. But when I give with a selfish or fear based motive… things turn out bad. When I give selfishly (expecting praise)… my kindness goes unappreciated & I feel hurt. When I give fearfully… I get taken for granted, taken advantage of, I give too much & enable people, rather than help them. The goal for today: learn how to “give” properly… but ALWAYS give! Have a great day everybody!

The Source

We all enter into this world with a heart full of love & our main purpose is to learn how to use that love properly. I used to believe that certain people were responsible for making me feel loved, by giving me their love… but now I can see that I was wrong. When I demand that my family, friends or significant other supply me with love, that is proof that I don’t know what real love is. The one & only way to truly feel love is to GIVE it! The goal for today: if I get love from God & give it out freely to others… then God, the source of love, will continually replenish my supply! Have a great day everybody!


“Giving, rather than getting, will become the guiding principle” ~Anon. When I am focused on what I can contribute to life & the people around me, I’m happy. When I focus on what I’m not getting from life & the people around me, I’m unhappy. When I feel frustrated, unfulfilled or dissatisfied… it’s because I’m focused on what I am getting or not getting. When I feel content, fulfilled & satisfied… it’s because I’m focused on giving freely of myself. The goal for today: know that real Happiness comes from giving! Have a great day everybody!

Just Give Love!

Love is something we GIVE! If I’m not feeling the love today, it’s not because I fell out of love… or it wasn’t the right kind of love… or you aren’t treating me right… it’s because “I’m” not giving it to anyone right now. We are so confused about what love is, how it works & what it’s supposed to feel like. Just give it to someone!!! Don’t think about who, what & where! Don’t think about whether or not they earned it or deserve it… just give it! The goal for today: just give the love that God filled your heart with, out freely to others… no strings attached! Have a great day everybody!

Your Ease… Is My Ease

If I want my suffering, loneliness & fear to ease… I must help ease the suffering, loneliness & fear of others.

I spent years looking out for #1 only to feel alone, frustrated & let down. 

Now I can see that selfishness is never the solution to any of my problems… in fact, it causes most of them. 

If I don’t want to be alone, I should find someone to help… then neither of us will be alone. 

The goal for today: whatever is lacking in my life, I should help others attain those very things… because only then, will it appear in my life! 

Have a great day everybody!

Permanent Peace & Happiness

Did you ever genuinely perform a random act of kindness? 

Most of us have at some point & here is what I’ve found. 

The one that gave help, probably remembers it & still feels good about. 

The one that received the help, has probably forgotten it & retreated back into the selfishness that caused their problem to begin with. 

The goal for today: don’t settle for the temporary relief of getting help… but bask in the permanent Peace & Happiness that comes only when we give help out to others! 

Have a great day everybody!