There is ALWAYS a solution! There is no such thing as an unsolvable problem & the craziest part of this fact, is that the root cause of the problem, as well as the actual solution, are both already in your own mind. If you sit down & thoroughly write down what you believe the problem is & who or what you believe caused it… you will begin to see your answers. If I pay close attention & I’m willing to see the Truth… I will find that ALL of my answers are already inside of me. The goal for today: pay attention… seek the Truth… take responsibility… & solve my problems! Have a great day everybody!
Blame is really just fear. When something goes wrong in my life, I have a tendency to immediately start looking for someone to blame. I want to believe that it is anybody’s fault but my own. Why? Because if it’s my fault that might mean that I’m stupid or weak or useless. But if I can somehow convince myself that it’s your fault, then that makes you stupid, weak or useless & I’m ok with that… you being an idiot doesn’t make me feel bad. The goal for today: if it’s your fault, I will forgive you & help you; if it’s my fault, I will admit it & fix it! Have a great day everybody!
“Where other people were concerned, we had to drop the word “blame” from our speech and thought” ~Anon. I spent most of my life blaming everybody other than myself for all of my problems… & as a result, my life sucked. Now I try to take full responsibility for my thoughts, words & deeds… & here’s why: 1) If it’s your fault, I can’t fix it… I can’t change you 2) Whoever I blame is controlling my life 3) If I assume responsibility, I am back in control… & I can fix it. The goal for today: assume responsibility… & be set Free! Have a great day everybody!
“Life is a series of choices. The oldest… is choosing to be a victim, or choosing not to.” ~from the movie The Accountant. Is the world around you causing you grief? Are people always harming you & making you sad or angry? Do all of your problems come from somebody other than yourself? Then you have chosen to be a victim. I chose to be a victim most of my life & it sucked! In my mind, my life sucked & it was everybody’s fault but mine. The goal for today: practice personal responsibility & never be a victim again! Have a great day everybody!
What feels better, blame or personal responsibility? AA’s 4th step lets me start by venting about how all of my problems are someone else’s fault & then it asks me to tell myself the Truth. And the Truth is that nobody can force me to think, feel, or act a certain way, I do this to myself. So blaming you brings a very false & very temporary sense of relief. On the other hand, taking responsibility for my own life & actions brings a more permanent sense of relief & becomes the foundation for a better life. The goal for today: Take control of your life by taking responsibility for it! Have a great day everybody!
“It is a spiritual axiom that any time we are disturbed, no matter what the cause, there is something wrong with us” ~Anon. This was an eye opening statement to me. I thought I was disturbed because there is something wrong with you. I thought if only the rest of the world would see things my way & act the way I want… life would be wonderful. This false belief, that my disturbance could come from outside of me, was destroying my peace, & our unity. The goal for today: if I’m disturbed, I must find out what’s wrong with me, not you! Have a great day everybody!
Most of my life I had no confidence in my own judgement… no faith in my ability to run my own life. I would let other people run my life… & then get mad at them when things didn’t turn out right. The solution is to find my self-esteem, take responsibility for my own thoughts, feelings & actions, & reclaim control of my own life. Even if I screw up, I should follow my own conscience, because living the life someone else chooses for me, is like not really being alive at all. The goal for today: personal responsibility leads directly to personal freedom! Have a great day everybody!